Tuesday, May 18, 2010

The Urge to Dominate

I find myself wanting to get deeper into this. I was reading a book on slave training last night, and the feeling came over me of wanting to dominate someone thoroughly.

It's ironic, because I've never seen myself as someone who wants total control, but I guess looking back it is something that has appealed to me. I've just never had the courage to go that route. Plus, my upbringing has taught me that all people are equal and that for one to dominate another is just wrong.

But, one thing that I have learned is that this lifestyle is all about choices. People make the choice to be submissive just as others make the choice to be Dominant. It isn't for us to judge or decide who's lifestyle is right or wrong. As long as it is consenual, then generally I don't see an issue with it.

We are still trying to find a balance in our lives with this new life. I know that she would not want to be a slave full time. she is concerned that by doing so, it would strip all of her personality away. I have that concern as well. she has a bit of a wild streak in her, for lack of a better term. she has needs in order to keep her sane and happy, and I/we worry that if she doesn't have those outlets, then it would result in unhappiness. Don't get me wrong, she does want to do this, we just don't know the extent of it yet. Something for us to figure out, I suppose.

Right now we are a bit excited as we will be taking a trip out of down for a few days in early June for a family wedding. We are hoping to line something up with a third for some play. We have done that before, but not in the context of a D/s situation. So, that adds a level of excitement to it that we haven't experienced before. Should be interesting!

Well, that's about it for today. I shall be back tomorrow. Until then....

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