Last night was our first visit to a local BDSM club. Needless to say, we were blown away. Neither one of us had ever seen anything like this. There was flogging, whipping, smacking and a whole host of other activities going on. I was pretty overwhelmed by the whole thing and it has me questioning things just a little bit. I am not going to throw in the towel on this. These activities and this lifestyle is something that we both want. It was just a little wild to see all of this. It made me feel like the novice that I truly am.
I know, though, that everyone in that club started where we did. One of the things that pet and I talked about was the need for me to find a mentor. I agree with that completely. If we are to do this right, then the guiding hand of someone experienced is the way to go. We will make mistakes, but we will be less likely to make the mistakes that can really mess things up if we have a mentor. The next trick is to find a good mentor. From what I have read, that can be a formidable challenge in and of itself. There are lots of people out there who advertise themselves as "masters" but aren't much more experienced than I am. I think that by going back to the club and attending the local workshops, I am likely to find someone that would be willing to mentor me.
I also haven't been feeling super dominant of late. I'm not sure what has gotten into me in regards to that. It could be because we haven't played much lately. I know that when we play I do feel more dominant. So, maybe the answer is to play more. It's just a little overwhelming. So much to do and get in place and no idea where to start.
Anyway, this post is just me whining. LOL. So, I think I will end it before it gets too much further. We are going to a BDSM Beginners discussion on Wednesday night. Hopefully I will be able to get some questions answered there.
Until next time....
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